Showing posts with label anecdotes. Show all posts
Showing posts with label anecdotes. Show all posts

Saturday, 14 February 2015

No Apple a day for Steve Job's children

An old article, but the title caught my attention.

No Apple a day for Steve Jobs’ children - who were not even allowed iPads

"While he persuaded millions that Apple’s chic but pricey gadgets were a must-buy, turning the company from a basket case to a global powerhouse, he prevented his own children from using iPads and limited their access to the internet generally."

"There is some scientific support for the idea that modern technology can be damaging. A study, published last month, of 11 and 12-year-olds found that removing digital devices, including televisions, for five days saw an improvement in social skills." 
Source: The Independent
In my own experience teaching preschool and lower primary children, I encountered students, usually boys, who could not sit still or focus on a task for even a few minutes. Whenever their parents asked me for advice, I would suggest that they cut down or better still, eliminate the child's exposure to the TV and iPad. Some gave me skeptical looks (especially those who had just bought an iPad for their sons!) but most of them complied in the end, and their childrens' attention spans improved accordingly.

I remember the most dramatic change was in a 6-year-old boy who could not complete a worksheet unless I sat beside him and guided him step-by-step. If I left him for a minute, I would return to find him wriggling around or doing annoying things to his classmates. This carried on for some time until I had a chat with his parents. Within a week, he was sitting down quietly and completing assignments without upsetting his classmates. I knew that limiting media exposure was important, but...in just a week? I couldn't believe the effects were so instantaneous. I was sure the parents had done something else to terrorise or bribe him. But his parents were just as amazed as I, and were very pleased with themselves. "We just banned the iPad. Completely," they said, beaming from ear to ear. It really was that simple. 


My little girl will be seven next year and I've been surfing the websites of a number of Waldorf primary schools. One consistently mentioned request from the schools is that parents strongly limit media exposure for their children.

"The cultivation of the imaginative power of each individual child is paramount as a foundation for the healthy development of creative and critical thinking in adolescence. A reliance on ready-made pictures reduces a child's ability to visualize both the written word (when reading) and the spoken word (when imaginative pictures are given, stories are told, etc.)"   
Source: Summerfield Waldorf School

"For Waldorf teachers, however, concern about media use is based less on the scientific studies and more on their own experience of seeing the difference between children exposed to media and those not exposed. Celia Riahi, a Waldorf preschool teacher with many years' experience, says she can recognize the "media children" in her class through the chaotic and mechanical movements and sounds that they make, in imitation of what they have seen on television. The play of these children is impaired. They tend to get stuck in a story line or get obsessed with one particular character-usually a television character. To the preschool specialist such behavior does not portend well for later development. 
Some Waldorf teachers feel that allowing a child to be exposed to the media undermines what they are trying to accomplish in the classroom. Waldorf Education relies largely on the ability of the children to listen to, observe, and absorb what the teacher is saying and doing and also to respond sensitively to artistic stimuli. Media viewing shortens attention span and dulls sensory sensitivity. Here not only the activity of viewing but also of listening to electronically reproduced voice and music is problematic. Thus parents' inability to eliminate media exposure is a major problem." 
Source: Why Waldorf Works


It's a tough one, for city-dwelling parents to take a purist approach and completely eliminate media exposure. It's everywhere, and if you don't let your children look at a screen, one of your friends will! But we can start somewhere. 

I take the middle approach. More towards the acetic side, but still, one with compromises.
  • My husband and I chose not to have a television in the house. 
  • We tell our children that our phones and devices are not toys.
  • If we are in a restaurant or coffee shop that has a television, we ask them to have self-control and avoid looking at the screen They actually do!
We try to avoid media exposure for our children, but with these exceptions:

"Screen-less" media

In the car, we listen to music CDs and audio books. 


Screen-time exceptions

1. We sometimes make video/audio recordings of their songs, stories and performances, and allow them to watch what they have recorded. 

2. Very occasionally, we learn a skill from a targeted Youtube video.
(eg. how to do a dance step, cook a dish, do a craft, or learn how cheetahs run!)
I try to watch the video in advance and show it to them personally, but sometimes I'm not as organised as I should be!

3. During emergencies. 
- When I am about to lose my temper/scream at someone and I really need peace and quiet 
- When there's been a serious accident and I need to ice a struggling and inconsolable child 

4. During haircuts.
I cut their hair in a tiny, cramped bathroom and I need them to remain motionless. 





I believe that it would be ideal to limit media as much as possible, but sometimes it's a choice between

zero media and a frazzled, frustrated parent 
vs. 
a tiny bit of media and a sane and serene parent

I'd choose to be serene. 


Monday, 25 August 2014

Study: Too Many Structured Activities May Hinder Children's Executive Functioning

Good news for laid-back parents.

Study: Too Many Structured Activities May Hinder Children's Executive Functioning 
When children spend more time in structured activities, they get worse at working toward goals, making decisions, and regulating their behavior, according to a new study.
Instead, kids might learn more when they have the responsibility to decide for themselves what they're going to do with their time. 
Psychologists at the University of Colorado and the University of Denver studied the schedules of 70 six-year olds, and they found that the kids who spent more time in less-structured activities had more highly-developed self-directed executive function. 
Source: http://blogs.edweek.org/teachers/teaching_now/2014/07/study_too_many_structured_activities_hinder_childrens_executive_functioning.html?cmp=SOC-EDIT-FB




Children need more unstructured free time for brain development. When children complain that they are bored, it is not so much that they are under-stimulated, but that their creativity could use a boost.

I once taught an imaginative 6-year-old boy who could entertain himself for long periods of time with a single piece of paper. He would experiment on how paper could make loud sounds, be used as a tool, and the different ways it could fly. When did he have the time to do this? For reasons unknown, his parents would drop him off for his class 45-minutes early(!) and most of his discoveries took place in his free time. He was also academically brilliant, but not particularly keen in following rules.

On the other hand, I have observed different children with different reactions when brought to a 'boring' place. There will be some who immediately devise a game or pretend play using anything they can find - sticks, stones, leaves, paper, containers... anything they can get their hands on. And there will be others who will complain that they are bored and that there is nothing for them to do. Often, much of their time has been filled with adult-directed activity and toy-directed play (as opposed to child-directed play with open-ended toys). So much so that they struggle in the absence of instructions. 

I remember another 6-year-old boy I taught a few years back. He was always very serious, much like his helicopter parents, who pretty much hovered over him and micromanaged everything he did. After a class discussion, I distributed a worksheet on the topic we had just talked about. Some children got to work right away. Others began when they saw their friends start writing. After a minute, the boy raised his hand.

Boy: What do I do now?
Me: What do you think you should do now?
Boy: I don't know.
Me: What's in front of you?
Boy: (points to worksheet) This?
Me: (nods)
Boy: Do I do this? 
Me: What do you think?
Boy: (thinks for a while.) Yes?
Me: Yes!
Boy: Now?
Me: What do you think?
Student: (thinks for another while) Yes. 

In the absence of instructions, some children struggle, while some just figure things out. Perhaps the less we hover over our children, the more they will figure out for themselves.

Time to re-look our daily homeschool routine. 

More unstructured time for them means more free time for me! :)





Monday, 9 December 2013

The love of a little girl

Today, the little girl woke up early. She cut an apple into slices, put them in a lunch box, filled up a water bottle, and packed them in her Daddy's laptop bag. She explained, "I wanted to eat the apple, but I love you so I packed it for you to bring to work so you won't be hungry at work."

I think I have never seen Daddy go so soft and marshmallow-fuzzy. Such is the joy of having a little girl's love.

Sunday, 8 December 2013

Why do men sneeze so loudly?

At a playground with the family. Three 9-year-old boys are playing nearby.

The Husband: (explosively) Ah CHOOOOO!

A Boy: Listen! There's a dog! (Catches sight of Pan and freezes) Oops.

The boys start to giggle, and so do we!

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On a separate note, it is said that your sneeze reflects your personality. Basically - You Are What You Sneeze.

A loud, explosive sneeze is likely to come from an outgoing, demonstrative person while someone who’s shy will try and hold back, resulting in a stifled, Minnie-Mouse style expulsion, says neurologist Dr Alan Hirsch.

Source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2313816/Are-snorter-squeaker-How-way-sneeze-reveal-real-personality.html#ixzz2mthvLPA6



Friday, 6 December 2013

Has it really been four years?

Since my last blog post, yes, it's been four long years.I guess it got lost in the midst of diapers, tantrums, runny noses, sandcastles, crayons, cuddles and the general excitement of having two Energizer Bunnies invade our home. A highly-welcome and blessed invasion, I might add!

If it wasn't for Shumin's private investigation efforts, I wouldn't have remembered the dive-in-i-am blog! It's somewhat outdated now, so I've moved on to a new blog to chronicle our homeschooling journey and our new life as we throw caution to the wind and pursue our dreams.

Anyway, I now know, thanks to Shumin, that my blog is discoverable to competent Google searchers!

So much has changed.

We've welcomed Roy.

Said goodbye to Mr Darcy, my companion of 12 years,  who will always have a special place in my heart.

Nurtured a garden on our balcony, growing pandan, lime, curry, Indian marjoram,  Kang Kong, and more...

Stepped up recycling efforts with Garbage Enzyme, Bokashi composting,  making our own fertiliser and household cleaners, and bringing containers and canvas bags out for shopping.

Discovered the joy of nature walks and walking barefoot on grass.

Experienced our marriage going through the washing machine - it's been through the mud, scrubbed, rinsed, spun, tumble dried and ironed out...

Took a leap of faith to start homeschooling with Enki - a journey of self discovery and self mastery not only for the children, but especially for the adults. A journey to connect with our inner wisdom,  enjoy Mother Earth, have fun everyday, and accidentally learn things along the way!

Survived an overhaul of our world views and belief systems - they have been torn down and rebuilt, and torn down again. Goodbye ego, judgement and blame; welcome compassion, gratitude and respect for all life! Each day is a magic carpet ride, discovering more about the beautiful world we live in, and "seeing a world in a grain of sand."



"To see a World in a Grain of Sand
And a Heaven in a Wild Flower,
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand
And Eternity in an hour."
 - William Blake